Self –esteem is how we feel about ourselves, having pride in ourselves, our independence, and self reliance are part of what makes up our self-esteem. Having self- confidence and self-respect is another important part of self-esteem.
As parents or educators, there is a great deal of influence on children’s self-esteem. I did some research recently on bullying and why children are bullies. Part of the issue is that some children have very poor self-esteem and therefore treat other badly in order to make themselves feel better about themselves. This is part of their acting out.
Poor self-esteem is related to lack of confidence, anxiety, depression, suppressed anger, sleeping problems, insecurity and being a loner or non-sociable person.On the other hand the more positive the self-esteem in a child, the respect they will have for themselves and others. Children with positive self-esteem will be more loving towards others. They will try harder to please their parents and teachers and be happier individuals.
Taking this into consideration, what does all the recent bullying in elementary schools tell us? I believe parents and educators must build up the children’s self-esteem and help them develop into caring people.
The problem in society today is that many children either don’t have that positive encouragement or are too influenced by outside sources other than their school or home.
It is important to build up children’s self-esteem before they hit adolescent years because after they become a certain age, their peers will be their main influence on their choices. It is important to create positive self-esteem in children before adolescence in order for them to resist negative peer pressure and be caring people. Putting a stop to bullying will have to start with building positive self-esteem in our young children.
- How Teens Define Self-Esteem (dr-carol.com)
- Building Babies Self Esteem (shareitforward.ca)
- Are We Building Self-Esteem or Telling Them They’re Stupid? (wisdomformom.com)
- Hanging out with parents boosts teen self-esteem (futurity.org)
- The Influence of Parenting Styles on the Relationship Formation of Adolescents (ivythesis.typepad.com)